tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359647282948346220.post7026598312035080189..comments2024-02-12T00:19:59.480-06:00Comments on Chasing Moonlight and Roses: Marriage Monday: Tips from Dr. Frank!Alihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03476033462621809611noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359647282948346220.post-3412834608955442642013-03-18T19:07:54.450-05:002013-03-18T19:07:54.450-05:00I actually think that linking withholding sex and ...I actually think that linking withholding sex and the incest taboo kicking in is pretty brilliant. I hadn't heard it before reading this several years ago and I haven't really seen it since. I think since incest is so taboo that most people just plain don't enjoy talking about it. (Me included, especially when it comes to marriage.) I mean, Dr. Frank was pretty extreme to mention it, but like I said, I think the idea is pretty genius.<br /><br />When it comes to such a complex {and dare I say revolutionary?} idea, it's important to look at the role that sex plays in marriage (and because I couldn't explain it much better than this, I'm copying/pasting from http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/abusiverelationships/tp/Withholding-Sex.htm):<br /><br />{"Sex is a way of connecting to your wife emotionally and physically. It builds a bond that promotes closeness and emotional intimacy. Sex is the glue that holds a marriage together. Some would disagree but it's my opinion that the sharing of intimate pleasure in a marriage enables couples to bond more deeply as friends. That friendship will sustain the marriage as we age, our bodies change and our need for the sexual connection lessens. Sex is what separates a couples relationship from all other relationships. A marriage without sexual intimacy and friendship will eventually sputter and die."}<br /><br />I hope it goes without saying that I personally believe there are -ABSOLUTELY- some exceptions to this when it comes to withholding sex for a greater purpose. Like, being long distance for whatever reason, abstaining while practicing NFP to postpone pregnancy, or abstaining from sex after having a child, after surgery, or for any other medical reasons. But, to complete this idea, most of the time when you abstain for those reasons you are still loving and affectionate to your husband, ya know? <br /><br />I think the withholding sex that Dr. Frank was talking about was as a {passive-aggressive} punishment which would also include withholding love and affection. Would you agree?Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03476033462621809611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359647282948346220.post-58724558060723932172013-03-18T08:41:57.510-05:002013-03-18T08:41:57.510-05:00I love everything you've listed. One thing I&#...I love everything you've listed. One thing I'm confused about though; how withhold sex can lead to incest?? I mean, I do see that withholding sex as a form of punishment is really ridiculous, and unfair to both partners. Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08274322927513770328noreply@blogger.com